kathryn vercillo childhood

I was born 35 years ago today. It’s a weird thing to think about, to be that age.

crochet dress

This was a crochet dress that I made myself for my birthday the first year I learned to crochet.

In some ways, I feel like I’ve lived and lived and lived. I’ve attended an intensive college prep high school (where I dropped out but was also prom queen), went to a few different colleges (graduating with a degree in Public Agency Service), gotten certified in massage therapy, attended a little bit of law school and started my Master’s Degree. I’ve been a photographer, traveled around the country in my pickup, run a literary non-profit for prisoners, spent two years as a foster mom, fallen in love and gotten my heart broken, written a few books, finally become comfortable with myself.

crochet birthday cake free pattern

This free crochet pattern for an adorable birthday cake comes from @LTBlogged

But in some ways, I still feel so young. Sometimes I still feel almost as insecure as I did when I was a teenager. I can’t really ride a bike, I eat too much colorful candy, I’ve only traveled to a couple other countries and never to Europe, I spend a lot of my time reading books and taking naps. I’m not capturing this very well but sometimes I feel so young … despite the living I’ve done, I occasionally feel like I’ve lived so little.

birthday party hats

Easy Makes Me Happy offers the free crochet pattern for these adorable party hats.

But I have. That’s what my 35 looks like. I’m happy most days and know how to take care of myself when I’m not. I have a million plans for my writing career but have settled well enough into it that I can support myself with it in the most expensive city in the country. I feel lucky to have gotten to know my parents as an adult. My siblings are my best friends. My relationship is steady and calm and supportive. I’m doing well. I’m happy to get older, because I get better each year, I think. I become more myself, digging deeper into what’s really there and shedding the flakes on the outside that were crusted on there through earlier years and don’t really belong to me.

crochet birthday cake

Yarn Pixie offers the free crochet pattern for this birthday cake shaped crochet coaster

Happy birthday to me. :)

Birthday Presents

crochet bear pattern

Free Red Heart crochet pattern for birthday bear toy

Some people have asked me what they can do for my birthday. Here’s what I really want:

  • Buy a copy of my book Crochet Saved My Life and give it to someone who needs it. Ask your library to carry a copy of it!
  • Make a donation of any size via paypal. (Use email address kathryn.vercillo over on gmail.) Donations will be used to buy special birthday yarn!
  • Tell your social media followers to check out my blog, read my books or subscribe to my newsletter!
  • Do a blog post about anything that you like here on Crochet Concupiscence. Spread the word!
  • Become a Crochet Concupiscence sponsor.
  • Teach someone else to crochet. I believe that it’s a gift. I already know how to do it but there are a lot of people who don’t so I’d love it if you’d pay it forward in honor of me!
  • Donate a crochet item to the charity of your choosing. Another pay-it-forward birthday option.

flamingpot crochet cupcakes

crochet cupcakes by flamingpot on Instagram

Of course, just the fact that you’ve read this post makes me happy. As I write this, my birthday is a few days away and I’m not sure what I’m going to do to celebrate. It will be low-key. It might involve a few people I love or a walk with a puppy or a day devoted to crochet and creativity. I will take the time to honor the people who have helped me get this far in my life and to set some goals for what I’d like to do in the next year. Thank you to each and every one of you who visit my site and help support what I do here by reading my words. Big birthday hugs to each one of you.

vercillo crochet granny halter


San Francisco based and crochet-obsessed writer, dreamer and creative spirit!


  1. jodiebodie Reply

    I know why you feel young – because 35 is still a young age to be!
    I know women in their 80s who say that they still feel like they are in their 20s on the inside! Sounds like 35 feeling young and yet having lived a LOT gives you the wisdom that age and experience brings but also the vitality of youth to be physically active and able-bodied to chase even more dreams for yourself and your life.
    Birthdays are always a time for reflection and also rejoicing how far you have come and enjoying where you are right now. I am very impressed with all of the amazing things you have packed into your life so far. Wishing you an excellent birthday!
    Jodie xx

    • Kathryn Reply

      Thanks so much for your terrific words here. Means lots!

  2. Happy Birthday to you!
    It’s my birthday today too, only I’m 45! I don’t feel my age either! :-)
    Have a great day!!

  3. Have the happiest of birthdays Kathryn! I loved getting to know you better!
    I can’t really remember what 35 looked like – my Jacob was small so it must’ve been hectic :) However, I feel like in my thirties only much better although I am 42 / 43 in a couple of months, because I never let my spirits get low or get old .
    May you always be happy and cheerful!

  4. Kathryn – happy birthday! It is YOUR life and you’re living it well. If you’ve travelled to 3 countries or 35 – who’s counting? You’ve done so many things – keep on enjoying it.

  5. God bless, and keep sticking around Kathryn, you are appreciated.

  6. Pam @ Hooks and Hills Reply

    Happy birthday kathryn!
    I’m 41 in June and I have the feeling my 40s will be my best decade to date – I’ve finally learned to live authentically, and it is so liberating! ! :) :) Age is just a number. At 28 I was in AA meetings and at my very lowest. I felt so old. Now, I’m more than a decade older, but I feel stronger than ever.
    Love your blog, I’m a recent subscriber and daily reader.
    Wishing you a lovely birthday :)

    • Kathryn Reply

      30s have definitely been better than 20s so I’m hopeful that it’s an upward slope here too!

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